To you

To the girl who is ever headstrong, determined and smart.

To the girl who has done so many things with me. Just the two of us.

To the girl who I'm comfortable to tell almost anything and everything.

Happy Birthday Sook Yee !

Jokers

Saw this in the company's forum.

First author: If I sue myself, will I win? Does such a situation arise?

Feedbacks from various authors:

1.My guess is the lawyer wins the most..

2.I don't know about this but if you kill yourself, you will surely die.

3.Can your soul/spirit die?...your mortal body surely can lah...like changing new car every time a new model comes around...

4.Quote "I don't know about this but if you kill yourself, you will surely die." this takes the prize Kelly!!!! so funny!!!!

5.How do you sue yourself? Please advise!

6.Why you ever want to do that (sue yourself)????

7.Now now now. Look sonny, if you win, who'll lose?

8.The question asked is "Will I win?". Before expounding on this question, I think it is pertinent to first ask the question "Can I sue myself in law?". If the answer is "no", then the question of "Will I win?" becomes not relevant.

9.At common law, there is a principle that a person cannot sue himself or herself. That principle applies to both natural person and artificial person like a corporation. Not very sure what the rationale is but may include the following:

a) it is a waste of court time;
b) you can't enforce judgment on yourself;
c) as someone rightly said, if you win, who lose?

Hence, if the law says that you can't sue yourself, then the question of "Will I win?" does not arise.

Perhaps as a matter of interest, there may be circumstances involving husband and wife where different considerations apply. Why husband and wife? Well, husband and wife are treated as one at common law (I think it is different for islamic laws). So the question is, can the wife sue the husband or vice versa? The answer is generally, "no" but because this principle seems harsh to be applied to all situations, the law had made certain exceptions in respect of, among others, matrimonial cases.

Disclaimer: This is not to be construed as a legal advice and at the point of sharing the position may have been changed.

10. Still not yet explained why this question arose in the first place. i suspect its likely someone in one department of a corporation wants to sue another dept in the same corporation. i have to admit the same thought has occurred to me from time to time.

11. Since you're looking at legal entities I guess you can't actually have a Department A sueing Department B since both are in the same legal entity Company C.

I suppose you could have Individual A suing Individual B but it would be quite a different case...

12.Alternatively Individual A could arrange an MBO of Department A, taking it out of Company C, and hence allowing Company A to sue Company C. This will have the added benefit of being a fee-generating activity hehe. Presuming of course Company A is able to inherit the sueable incident...

13.Guys:
I don't really know what the fuss is all about this suing yourself business... I can think of other more fun things you can do by yourself when you feel bored (no not THOSE things!!) Here are some options for those CIMBians who feel restless but too lazy to get out of the house:

(a) cleaning the grime in between your toes and under your feet with a berus (its very refreshing... try it);
(b) arranging your old magazines so they are in an alphabetical and/or chronological order (really cool!); or MY all-time FAVOURITE
(c) partake in some mindless internet blogging wif friends.

Embrace whatever

About 6 years ago my father was a manager. I wouldn't say that we were above-average, but we were financially stable. Perhaps if he hadn't left his job, he would have been able to afford my undergraduate studies in a private university without much of a burden.

Attending seminars like 'Money & You', reading books written by Robert Kiyosaki, he was inspired to jump into the bandwagon of entrepreneurship. Then began his long and treacherous journey.

It was also the time which he chose to leave the family. From a Wira we were 'downgraded' to two Kancils. From a stable income to deficit figures seeping into his savings. From that time onwards I found Astro being disconnected from time to time due to default in payments.

I found myself worrying a lot. Concerns over the extra hour I left the air-conditioner on. Concerns on whether I should get that top I desire. Concerns on whether I should ask for allowance, although my wallet is clearly empty.

Sometimes I blame him for having taken away my teen-hood. Where I should have been a worry-free teenager. Where I should only concern myself about matters like friendship, academic performance, puppy love ...

I tried talking him into getting a stable job again but he held on to his principle. I watched as he travelled from state to state to get assignments. I watched as he squeezed through the little budget he has. I watched as his skin became more tanned. I watched as his clothes became increasingly ragged. All through this he remained positive and optimistic about his little venture.

Today I am able to relate to his experience.

When I signed on to this internship, I imagined myself being assigned to assignments in which I'd learn a great deal, where I'd discover whether this line of work is my cup of tea, where I'd be able to show my potential as a prospective employee. I see myself being offered employment well before graduation.

All these need to work in time so that I would be assured a job right after graduation. Accelerating to the phase in which my parents has one child less to support, thereby enabling them to long last afford their well-deserved indulgence.

Instead I find myself staring into the computer screen everyday doing nothing. Occasionally, I am give mundane assignments. It didn't take long to crush my hopes and expectations. I started to doubt whether my future would ever turn out as expected. Or would I be living this life of submitting to second best forever.

Today I am able to relate to my father's experience.

I realize that I need to embrace whatever that comes along. It is how one goes through disappointments and failures by embracing them, learning from them and then move on with increased effort that makes one admirable. It is important to acknowledge that failure is necessary to gain skills and experiences needed for success.

Although things may not turn out as expected, it does not give reason to give up on achieving whatever we have in mind.

Today I am renewed, motivated.

Pissed to the core

Some stupid people who doesn't know how to drive should bloody rot in hell ! Why drive so bloody fast when you cannot control the car!

I so wish you get sodomized with a knife, fucking intestines ripped off and blended into juice and then feed you with it! Stupid la-la, white old proton saga driver. Drive faster and die NOW !!!

***

Today I was happily driving towards Jalan Bangsar from the office. I took the flyover up passing KL Sentral and going down onto Jalan Bangsar. If you have taken the route before, the road is a curve and so you can't really see beyond the curve.

As usual, most people would drive fast on that road. However, during these times of hour Jalan Bangsar is very jam and the queue is extremely long. Unfortunately, those driving fast would not see it till after passing the curve. Thus, they have to slam their breaks hard.

I was able to stop in time as I wasn't driving too fast and I kept enough distance from the car in front of me. But that stupid la-la fucker couldn't stop in time and so he tried swerving to the left to avoid my car. Too bad he is a lousy driver and he knocked my car.

After knocking my car, he happily DRIVES AWAY! THAT BLOODY FUCKER!



Damage is not significant though. Just some ugly scratches and a partially broken light. (Which I'm not sure what use it has)

But I am so very very very pissed to the core!

Die la-la driver DIE !

Aih

I'm very very frustrated. I have nothing to do at work. If I'm lucky, I might get 8 - 16 hours of work in a week. That is if I'm lucky.

Whenever I do ask my supervisor for work, he'd said wait. His expression impatient. Not unkind, fierce kind of impatient. But 'If there's work, I'll come to you' kind of impatient. And he is extremely busy, so I don't really dare to disturb him. Thus, I only ask for work ocassionally, when I'm feeling daring enough. Eventhough almost every working day begins without work.

See now I'm in a dilemma. By not asking for work whenever I've got nothing to do, I'm not showing initiative to learn. I'm not being proactive. But if I do ask, I'm afraid I might get on his nerves. Though I'm sure he wouldn't yell at me or something, but you get what I mean right?

Having nothing to do is even more stressful than having ever-accumulating work to do.


***


Today super-rich aunty decides to join some colleague from another department for lunch. So I had no choice but to follow. Burned another hole in my pocket. Continue this everyday and I'd sure go bankrupt.

Next time, if they intend to dine at restaurants costing more than RM 10, I shall eat alone, and spend some quality time with my RM 3.50 nasi goreng.

Kinky

Ha ! Caught you ! You naughty little pervert. You've been a bad, bad girl/boy, clicking on titles like this.

Anyway, remember I told you about an audit project manager helping us with the implementation of the FRS 139 ? Well, today was her last day. Naturally, I brought along my camera to the office today so that we could have a little camwhoring session.

At first, I thought of going somewhere special for lunch. Some fancy restaurant maybe. Instead, she brought us to this coffee shop in KL. I don't really know where it is, but it's somewhere near the Sime Darby building. They also have a branch in Pandan Indah, just opposite the police station.

Restoran Kin Kin (Sounds like kinky right?)

Apparently, this coffee shop is famous for its Chili Pan Mee. So the restaurant was very packed. Luckily, we didn't have to wait long before we got a table. After sitting down, for a long time we attempted to have someone take our order. After waving like crazy for someone to serve us, we finally caught the attention of one of the staffs.

What she said next surprised us.

'Could you take our order please ?'
'Already ordered.'
'But we have not ordered yet.'
'I have already taken your order the minute you came in.'

It appears that people only come here for one dish cooked in one style only. No choice on 'soup based' or 'dry based'. So there is no need to order.

Moonie, Mei Yee & Super rich aunty

After a long wait, the famous Chili Pan Mee was finally served.

You are supposed to mix the pan mee with their specially-made chili paste.

Being an avid spicy food lover, I added lots of that. Hence the stomachache I'm having now.

Well, all I can say is that the wait was worth-while. The pan mee was yum-yum. Nothing like the normal pan mee we have.


***


Now that the Mei Yee's leaving, I'm left with only the super-rich aunty as my lunch partner. At first there were four of us, and now there are two only. First to leave was Beckham's wife, well not exactly leave lah, she's attending a 2-month classroom training, so it's hard to match her lunch time with ours.

Both of your presence are sorely missed !

Unbelievable

Today I received a most shocking email. Shocking because it involves people whom I know. Both parties were my schoolmates, not close but have talked and went for lunches together before.

To begin the story, I've gotta start from around 6 months ago. I received a message in Friendster from one of the party. She was asking for the hp no. of the other party. But of course I was of no help, because I have not really kept contact with the other party.

Fast forward today. I received this email from the first party:

(I've just copied and paste)

*** To: all the people who concern to this matter.

Hi, sorry for disturbing you all in sending this email, or perhaps you do not know me.. this is an email which i telling the truth that i can swear to god.

this bustard is khaw en thiam, (hp : 012-6918620),he used to work in opital branches. i believe that some of you may knew him or heard his name in secondary school (confucian) , he used to study in 5AB class. i had attached a photo of him that you all may view it from the bottom of this letter.

he contact me in february 2008, sms me said that his father need to operation immediately and do not have enough money for paying the deposit fees of RM 300 in gleaneagles hospital. i still remember that day was 29th february,as my salary was just cash out. i was kinda suspect him of whether he is telling lies or not. he told me that his company havent pay him any salary yet as will be pospone for 3days more.

and he also guarantee that he will return back the money for me immediately as his salary cash out in 3rd march. as we are friend,i though he wasnt that kind of people who cheating. who know this god damn bustard swift off his handphone and make himself lost contact.he has been owing me money for 5months!!! everyone was looking for him, i do not know how many victim has been cheated by this bustard. but i was very fustrated as his using my simpathy. he will be swift on his hp around midnight, he used to hand up my call when i catched him on the phone.

please forward this email all around, so that you all may pay more attetion to this bustard and WHACK HIM. if some of you are his friend, please...open your big eyes and see, you will realise, he is such a liar !!!

if anyone who cheated by him as i am, pls email me : carinakoh86@yahoo.com

we can try to figure out on how to settle this problem to this LIAR!

朋友们：

很冒昧的电邮你们，不好意思。或许在你们之中有些并不认识我。 不过没关系。我电邮的目的是要让大家认清这家伙！！他是许永添，曾经就读尊孔5AB班。有在眼镜店做过工，相信不少朋友有遇见过他。你们可以放大看看以下的照片就会认得他了。

他这个不要脸的混蛋，竟然用爸爸要开刀不够钱付而到处信息向人借钱。 事实是否是这样我并不知道。我只知道他利用了我对他爸爸的同情心而骗了我三百块！而且一直迟迟不肯还钱！我相信你们之中也有收到他的信息吧？

一个大男生竟然向女生借钱却又不还而且也不交待一声，这种可耻的男人，你们说他该不该在路上被人"hood"?? 他甚至把电话关掉，弄到好像人间蒸发一样。可是竟然让我抓到他开机的时间。所以，朋友们，你们不要以为他不见了，其实他是躲起来了！

我不知道你们之间谁是他朋友，可是我要奉献一句，他是个很会利用人家同情心的骗子。大家要提防。 请把这封email传下去让全部的朋友知道，别再上他的当了。好吗？

如果你们有谁知道他的下落，或和我一样是受害者，请email我: carinakoh86@yahoo.com

我们可以一起商讨对策来对付这个骗子! ***

Yes, she took the trouble to write this email in both language.

She even went as far as to attach his picture in the email. But of course I won't do that here. Personally, I feel that her actions are a little too extreme. Then again, she is just super furious.

But seriously, I cannot believe that friend actually did this to her. This guy was a friend I personally know. I have talked to him numerous times in class and have actually regarded him as being a decent guy.

To think that he is capable of doing such a thing, really shatters my trust for people around me. Could he maybe, just maybe have valid reasons ?

The borderline

There is a thin line between innocent sharing and an attempt to show off.

Let's say something really great happen to you one day and you feel so excited that you'd like to share it with your friends. Do you:

1) Hey, I got straight A's for SPM ;
My dad's getting me a new car !

OR

2) Keep it to yourself

Choosing option 1 might result in your friends bitching behind your back: " That xxxxxx, such a blardy show-off, as if I'm interested to know. "

Indeed, sometimes and I admit it myself, we do brag about great things about ourselves in an attempt to impress our friends. Yet, other times, our intentions could be as innocent as to share our excitement and joy.

Such dilemma arises because actions could have many unspoken motivations. In such, there can be many interpretation of the very same action.

Perhaps I should learn to believe in the better sides of people.

The thing with money

Things associated with money are always such sensitive matter.

Like when a friend borrows money from me and 'forgotten' to return it. It puts me in such an awkward position when I have to open my mouth to ask for it. So sometimes, I'd rather not collect it. If the amount is insignificant lah of course.

So it is July already and I have worked for half a month. Of course I'm looking forward to my payment. But then, the stupid HR department did not brief me about payment. So I don't know whether I have to collect a cheque or they'd bank it into my account.

Finally, I gathered my courage and asked the HR dept. Turns out I do have to collect a cheque and it was already prepared since 26th of last month. It was not so hard after all to ask. Don't know why I was so scared. I'm a coward.

******

Is it just me or has it been freezing this past few days? I tell you, my fingers are numb and I've been visiting the washroom like every 15 minutes. I'm afraid I'm gonna die from dehydration. My colleagues must think that there's something wrong with my bladder.

******

I don't know whether it's the pressure of having to go to work or something. My sister and mother have been complaining about my snores. Apparently, it has become louder than usual. Fortunately, it has not become as unbearable as dad's snores. His snores are so goddamn irritating that you'd think about stabbing him with a knife so he'd shut up.

Along with the louder-than-usual snores, came the wake-up hair. My gosh, you really have to look at it. I totally look like a lion. But I'm still sleeping the usual way/position. Hmmph.

Somehow, despite going to bed early, I'm still darn sleepy in the office. But today is better. Maybe cause it's Friday.

YAY !

I lurrve

I lurrve this picture.

Jerry & Serene's pre-wedding photo shoot


MsRedd's the wedding planner, with Julian as the photographer.

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